You can see the fear in her eyes when she gets into standing position and knows she needs to take a step forward. Her little wheels in her head begin to turn and she almost talks herself out of it.
“Positive anything is better than negative nothing.”– Elbert Hubbard
“Stay positive” has almost become a cliche saying. However, if you Google the effects of what a positive mindset can accomplish, you will find that there are endless articles that highlight the benefits and how it can improve your quality of life. I fully believe in this principle and encourage you to focus on shifting your way of looking at everything as it will improve your life in so many areas. We have so much more power over our lives and over circumstances than we are raised to believe.
I also understand how difficult it is to live in a constant positive state of mind. Life is hard. It is extremely difficult to “look on the bright side” when everything seems to be going wrong. Especially when you are stuck in a bad rut or are having a string of bad days. I have been a firm believer in the principle for years and I STILL have to redirect myself when things are not going well. This past week has been especially tough for me and it has taken a lot to keep it all together. It is very easy to give up and say “screw it all” instead of fighting off those negative feelings in order to keep moving forward. But just like anything else you train your body to do, you have to form better habits in order see the benefits. There are ways to improve your life just by training your mind to be more positive. Despite the health benefits of working out or dieting, most decide not to because it is just too difficult to stay on that path. You always have the choice to make things better, it just usually takes more work. If you don’t know where to start, take a look at some tips below:
1. Let go of the things that are out of your immediate control. Stop focusing on factors that you cannot change. Don’t let someone else’s bad attitude, or circumstances that are out of your control bring you down. If there is nothing you can do, why dwell on it? Emotions are out of our hands and you cannot control how you feel about something. You can however control how you react to those emotions. Figure out to deal with those emotions in a healthy manner but do not dwell on them.
2. Be grateful. When things are going south, shift your focus on something you can be grateful for. Again, this is something that has almost become a cliche idea but there is a reason this principle is so popular. When you focus on the things you do have, no matter how insignificant, your will begin to let go of the feelings of deprivation.
3. Take action and be accountable. Please note that there is a difference between taking accountability for a behavior or decision. That means that you see it and you analyze it but figure out ways to make sure you react differently the next time. Weighing yourself down with feelings of guilt will not help anything. It is very easy to fall into a victim mentality but the truth is that most of the occurrences happening in your life are in one way or another ripples of a decision you made. Self-sabotaging behaviors like avoiding issues completely and allowing yourself to let problems completely subdue any action at all are what keep others in a perpetual state of “bad luck”. What most consider to be bad luck is really just bad circumstances that are affects of bad decisions or lack of solutions that could propel one forward but instead hold them down. At some point, people often give up because it all seems like too much.
I wish this was something every parent passed onto their children. I believe if this were the case, there would not be so many people who have given up on life. I know of many adults who have truly never heard this advise. You can see the wheels turning when you start to tell them how much power they really have. So, if this is the first time you have heard this, or maybe you were reminded, please pass this on to someone else.
Y’all will have to be patient with errors on this post. I am on the road with my family so I am not able to scour everything for errors from a computer screen as well as I usuallly can. But I am committed to making regular posts and Friday is one of those target days. Please enjoy the last enstallment of “Follow your calling”
If you’re looking for inspiration and you’ve never picked up a copy of The Alchemist, I would encourage you to do so. I have read a ton of great books but I have to say this one really resignated with me. It really is a blue print when it comes to pursuing your dreams. One of these days I am going to write a piece highlighting all of the little nuggets this book has to offer.
One of the most important lessons you will learn is not to seek out financial gains while pursuing your passions. Obviously if it grows to be something that is profitable, that is amazing. Even the most successful leaders and life coaches will give the same advice. Do not just pursue something because you think you will get rich doing it. If your are looking to share your gift with the world, then truly give it away. Figure out how your gift helps others, hone in on your skills, and then set out to make the world a better place. Eventually, if your heart is in the right place, the universe will reward you.
“That’s what Alchemist do. They show that, when we strive to be better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” (Pg. 156, Coelho)
Towards the end of the story the boy asks for the Alchemist to yeah him Alchemy to which the Alchemist replies “you already know about Alchemy” then he continued to tell him “I have known true Alchemists” he said “then there were the others, who were interested only in gold. They never found the secret.”(pg. 142)
For most of us, the issue with that is, we all need to eat. Most of us dedicate an enormous amount of our time towards our jobs. Leaving us little time to pursue our passions. Every decision I make affects the other four members of my fami and I do not have the luxury of quitting my job and pursuing blogging full time. But here’s the thing, it’s a passion for me, so I make the time for it. Most of the time, my writing is done at 5am Texas time. My husband has left for work, my 3 babies are sleeping, and I am up writing instead of sleeping. Writing is something I put off for a long time but I realized I needed to make it happen. You can find a way too. Instead of focusing on everything holding you back, figure out ways around those obstacles. If you have to take a few extra steps to meet your goal or grow your dream, go for it anyway. Things might be tough for a bit but stick with it. Think of it as a season in life. Keep in mind that tough times always bring growth and knowledge.
I truly hope this advise will reach out and touch someone’s heart in a way that changes and betters their life. These are the things I will teach my daughters when they grow up and ask me “what should I be?”. Best of luck to all of you readers out there. Get out there and find your calling.
“Listen to your heart. It knows all things, because it came from the soul of the world. And It will one day return there.” –Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
How do I find what my calling is? Where do I start? I don’t hear anything?
Is that you? Are you sitting here desperately trying to figure out why you don’t hear voices?? I am kidding, because of course whatever is calling you is not an actual voice. Its calling you from deep within, pulling you to do something, but maybe you can’t figure out what that message is. Here are a few steps to get you on the right track
1. Keep it organic. Start by tuning into your own heart more, what makes it beat? It’s a calling, so you have to learn how to listen. Try really hard to remember what peaked your interest during your childhood. What got your attention? Start there. Experiment with the things that get you excited or fascinate you. It may have been something you didn’t have the means to try, now is your chance. Or maybe it was something you started, and loved but had to give up because life got in the way. Get back to the place where you were completely happy no matter how silly it seems.
2. Find a way to quiet your head, it’s the only way your heart will get a minute to speak. A lot of times, the first thing we try to do is look around and see what makes everyone else happy. Looking around at others will only cause you to feel discouraged. Look within instead. I always recommend mediation for anyone seeking a deeper purpose in life. Think of your heart as a well, your purpose is deep within and completely inherent but it takes a lot of digging before you can tap in. Meditation is one of those things that sounds a little crazy to anyone who has never tried it. It’s definitely not fun at first, but once you get it down, you begin to see immediate results. I promise it gets easier with time.
3. Don’t force it. These days we can pretty much have anything we want at the snap of a finger. In my own experience, the harder I tried to force something out, the more unattainable it was. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t find your life’s calling right away. Just follow the bread crumbs. Once you begin to seek your calling, you will see how the universe begins to pave the way. You may begin one pursuit and connect with someone who leads you to something completely different. You may be lead a certain way because there is a lesson you need to learn first. You may need to go down five or six paths before you hit the right one. But it all starts with that little fire you feel or that little voice that is calling you. Start there, and see where it takes you. Trust your own light, trust your own voice, and you will end up where you need to be.
Coming Soon: Follow your calling- Not the gold
“Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire”-Jennifer Lee A big part of my inspiration for starting this blog was due to the strong desire I had to write a book for my daughters. I want to give them the best head … Continue reading Follow your calling-Part 1
“Eat thou honey, because it is good” Proverbs 24:13
If you have stopped by to learn about honey, you have stopped at the wrong blog. That is not to say there will never be a post about actual honey and all of it’s benefits, because I could go on and on about all of its uses.
No, this blog was created to share my life’s stories and lessons learned along the way. So why the honey theme? I initially wanted to create a theme for my page centered around my new last name. I love that my last name starts with a B. I feel like the honey bee has become my adopted spirit animal since taking my new last name. It’s inspired me to use lots of cute little bees in my home decor which makes me happy. As I was thinking and developing my ideas about what the central theme of my blog would be, I knew I wanted to incorporate some of the wisdom I have picked up while living and raising my girls. What a better metaphor to relate wisdom to than honey? It’s natural, it’s sweet, and has so many healing benefits. Hopefully anything beneficial you see here will be just as sticky as honey too.
So expect lots of little stories and experiences that have taught me something. There might even be a few life hacks, recipes or reviews I will share. Whatever I do share will be real, raw, and straight from the heart. My hopes in sharing are to give a little inspiration and knowledge for all visitors to apply to their own lives. In a world full of ugly, I hope to share some light and positivity for those who need it. If nothing else, I hope my readers get a little laugh to get them through the day. Think of the honey you will find on this blog as food for your soul.